Comments on: Honesty…is such a lonely word

By: Mary DeTurris Poust

Mary DeTurris Poust — Sat, 11 Jan 2014 00:25:09 +0000

In reply to Maggie Pinque.

Thank you, Maggie. I hope to get to the Magic Basement to meet you in person some day soon!
Peace, love, and hugs,
Mary

By: Mary DeTurris Poust

Mary DeTurris Poust — Sat, 11 Jan 2014 00:23:53 +0000

In reply to Melanie (Maggie's friend :). Thank you! Any friend of Maggie's is a friend of mine. :-)

By: Melanie (Maggie's friend :)

Melanie (Maggie's friend :) — Sat, 11 Jan 2014 00:19:57 +0000

Totally agree about the Facebook stuff. Sometimes I feel like posting picture of myself with a grumpy frown because if you’re judging me by my profile pic, you’d assume I was relentlessly happy.
I don’t know you, but… hugs!!

By: Kate Cohen

Kate Cohen — Fri, 10 Jan 2014 21:16:50 +0000

Actually I think DIShonesty is lonely because it cuts other people off from your true thoughts and feelings. Lying–“performing” a self that isn’t true–may be more social in a facebook kind of way, but it’s lonelier. When I share truth and people hear it and respond with truth that’s the most connected and together with others I ever feel.

By: Fran Rossi Szpylczyn

Fran Rossi Szpylczyn — Fri, 10 Jan 2014 14:33:44 +0000

Oh Mary, I did not get to read your blog yesterday, yet I had a feeling that you might not be feeling your best, just an intuition. When I clicked in today, I was both surprised and not surprised.

Mary, all I can offer are the prayers and concern for you to be both patient and gentle with yourself right now. What a combination, post-holidays, your grandmother’s passing, a zillion other things, and the horrible cold, dark, days we have been having.

Peace, I wish you, consolation, healing, rest and hope. Love you Mary!

By: Theresa

Theresa — Fri, 10 Jan 2014 12:55:22 +0000

I feel you.

By: Maggie Pinque

Maggie Pinque — Fri, 10 Jan 2014 12:47:23 +0000

Oh Mary ~

I am SO honored and touched that you shared my words with your always incredible words. YOURS made me weep. Mine were cathartic.

Funny how that works, right?

I loved Sasha’s thoughts about time, “even though we experience time as linear, it isn’t really.” So true. As you can imagine, I loved the use of the word weird.

Pain is universal. As my oft quoted prior therapist said to me years ago, “Feelings just are.”

And isn’t that just so freaking special… (written in pure SNL tone)

From my Magic Basement to yours I send you all the love and light I have.

xoxo to you my friend.

By: Maria Evans

Maria Evans — Thu, 09 Jan 2014 17:14:29 +0000

That is very true, too. Thank you.

By: Mary DeTurris Poust

Mary DeTurris Poust — Thu, 09 Jan 2014 16:55:12 +0000

In reply to Maria Evans.

Maria,

Thank you for writing — and for being honest.

I think we have to be very careful with Facebook because, while it is a wonderful place to connect and reconnect with friends, it is also a place where we can get caught up in the comparison game. And, if we forget that everyone is posting only the very best of their lives, we can start to think we don’t measure up or we’re failing or we’re flawed beyond hope. Meanwhile, others are probably feeling the exact same way due to the fun and positive stuff we’re posting.

We’re all just trying to get through this life, and we can’t forget that what we see is not always reality but a highly polished version of the truth.

Thanks again.
Peace,
Mary

By: Sasha

Sasha — Thu, 09 Jan 2014 16:43:52 +0000

In reply to Mary DeTurris Poust.

OK, whew.

So often when I talk about that theory, I get blank stares. Or worse, I get that look like I have three heads and need to be committed.

But I love it and it feels so very true to me. It is nice to find someone else who ‘gets’ it, too.